Comments on: How ugly are you? http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/ Everything you've always wanted to know about cooking, but were too afraid to ask Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:06:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Caitlin http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/#comment-7411 Caitlin Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:06:01 +0000 http://chefstales.wordpress.com/?p=212#comment-7411 I was browsing your website and I found this post. I was not expecting to read something like this on a cooking blog. I t is so great that you did that with your friend, that you tried to help, because otherwise things might not change. I was browsing your website and I found this post. I was not expecting to read something like this on a cooking blog. I t is so great that you did that with your friend, that you tried to help, because otherwise things might not change.

]]> By: Michael Saxon http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/#comment-6106 Michael Saxon Thu, 01 Dec 2011 08:44:11 +0000 http://chefstales.wordpress.com/?p=212#comment-6106 Dear Shu, I am very glad that the article makes you feel good about yourself as trust me you deserve it. Every human being on the planet is beautiful in their own way and there is always a partner out there whom will love you in the way you have always dreamed of. Never let anyone make you feel even remotely uninspiring as when you look in the mirror and show that beautiful smile, trust me...that is what everyone else will see. If you are in Malaysia, please email me at michael.saxon@easternandoriantel.com if you would like to chat. I hope you have the best upcoming week you have even had. Please take care! Mike. Dear Shu,

I am very glad that the article makes you feel good about yourself as trust me you deserve it.

Every human being on the planet is beautiful in their own way and there is always a partner out there whom will love you in the way you have always dreamed of.

Never let anyone make you feel even remotely uninspiring as when you look in the mirror and show that beautiful smile, trust me…that is what everyone else will see.

If you are in Malaysia, please email me at michael.saxon@easternandoriantel.com if you would like to chat.

I hope you have the best upcoming week you have even had.

Please take care!

Mike.

]]> By: Shu http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/#comment-5983 Shu Sun, 27 Nov 2011 15:30:42 +0000 http://chefstales.wordpress.com/?p=212#comment-5983 Hello there Sir mike :] I actually bookmarked this site of yours.If that is okay. I am also watching E&O search for next celebrity chef from the very beginning. I really enjoy the show. Reading through your site, This " How ugly are you?" caught my attention. I agree with everything you have written in this article, Since me,myself I have also experienced that. Being teased that I am ugly and what hurts the most is being compared to my sister. So until now if someone gave me compliments that I look wonderful, beautiful and anything that has to do with my physical appearance, I actually doubt it and keep in mind that it wasn't true. Though sometimes I stand in front of the mirror trying to find out which part of me that is cause them to call me ugly. It's hard to deal with that.. But, Reading your article is so inspiring. And thank you so much for this i love reading it. Goodluck :] Shu Hello there Sir mike :]

I actually bookmarked this site of yours.If that is okay.
I am also watching E&O search for next celebrity chef from the very beginning. I really enjoy the show.

Reading through your site, This ” How ugly are you?” caught my attention.
I agree with everything you have written in this article, Since me,myself I have also experienced that.
Being teased that I am ugly and what hurts the most is being compared to my sister.
So until now if someone gave me compliments that I look wonderful, beautiful and anything that has to do with my physical appearance, I actually doubt it and keep in mind that it wasn’t true.
Though sometimes I stand in front of the mirror trying to find out which part of me that is cause them to call me ugly.

It’s hard to deal with that..

But, Reading your article is so inspiring.
And thank you so much for this i love reading it.
Goodluck :]

Shu

]]> By: rachel http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/#comment-3589 rachel Tue, 03 May 2011 18:01:16 +0000 http://chefstales.wordpress.com/?p=212#comment-3589 Thanks, you really make my day with this post. Thanks, you really make my day with this post.

]]> By: Juliet http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/#comment-3500 Juliet Sun, 17 Apr 2011 13:17:47 +0000 http://chefstales.wordpress.com/?p=212#comment-3500 Chef Michael, You are wise beyond measure! I have met tall handsome men who seemed ugly because of selfish or rude comments they made, and shriveled old women who smiled and held out their hand and seemed totally beautiful. No-one should accept being called ugly, not even that selfish guy. Thank you for the inspiring post. Chef Michael,
You are wise beyond measure! I have met tall handsome men who seemed ugly because of selfish or rude comments they made, and shriveled old women who smiled and held out their hand and seemed totally beautiful. No-one should accept being called ugly, not even that selfish guy. Thank you for the inspiring post.

]]> By: joanna http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/#comment-3398 joanna Fri, 25 Mar 2011 14:54:22 +0000 http://chefstales.wordpress.com/?p=212#comment-3398 I have a stunning and very clever friend who was treated like this it is astonishing how words can undermine a person's confidence. It didn't take her long to bounce back after the relationship had ended but it was shocking to see it at the time. Thank you for writing such a meaningful blog I have a stunning and very clever friend who was treated like this it is astonishing how words can undermine a person’s confidence. It didn’t take her long to bounce back after the relationship had ended but it was shocking to see it at the time. Thank you for writing such a meaningful blog

]]> By: Joelynn http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/#comment-3217 Joelynn Sat, 05 Mar 2011 09:34:28 +0000 http://chefstales.wordpress.com/?p=212#comment-3217 I urge anyone who has body/looks issues to read Phenomenal Woman by Maya Angelou. I urge anyone who has body/looks issues to read Phenomenal Woman by Maya Angelou.

]]> By: Happychick667 http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/#comment-3174 Happychick667 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 15:34:35 +0000 http://chefstales.wordpress.com/?p=212#comment-3174 Hi Mike I have experienced this at first hand (1st marriage, 11yrs of marriage) and the word 'Ugly' it is so destructive to a person's self esteem. I am now in a 2nd marriage (married for 4yrs) and my husband tells me everyday how beautiful i am (im still finding it hard to believe him)......even after 18 years 'ugly' still haunts me all thanx to my 1st husband....but i am a survivour and he cannot beat me anymore with his cruel words. Hi Mike

I have experienced this at first hand (1st marriage, 11yrs of marriage) and the word ‘Ugly’ it is so destructive to a person’s self esteem.

I am now in a 2nd marriage (married for 4yrs) and my husband tells me everyday how beautiful i am (im still finding it hard to believe him)……even after 18 years ‘ugly’ still haunts me all thanx to my 1st husband….but i am a survivour and he cannot beat me anymore with his cruel words.

]]> By: Gerri Riddiough http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/#comment-2950 Gerri Riddiough Sun, 12 Dec 2010 22:38:36 +0000 http://chefstales.wordpress.com/?p=212#comment-2950 Hi Mike I trained as a youth leader for some time, have you heard of a game/exercise called squares, circles, triangles? It was a massive experience for me going through it but it changed my life! I am far from indestructible from it and your post has both strengthened and reminded me of it!! I may well retweet your post too! Hi Mike
I trained as a youth leader for some time, have you heard of a game/exercise called squares, circles, triangles? It was a massive experience for me going through it but it changed my life! I am far from indestructible from it and your post has both strengthened and reminded me of it!! I may well retweet your post too!

]]> By: Deanna Schrayer http://chefstales.com/2009/08/27/how-ugly-are-you/#comment-2805 Deanna Schrayer Thu, 18 Nov 2010 16:06:12 +0000 http://chefstales.wordpress.com/?p=212#comment-2805 Mike, I am so glad I found you. This is one of the best blog posts I've ever read. You've said exactly what I feel. I lived through a relationship like this when I was young - from 16-23-years old, and it nearly crushed my normal confident, out-going personality. My husband, (at that time), criticized every single thing I did, and of course I believed him - that I was stupid and couldn't do anything right. I'm certain my age had a lot to do with it, but I truly believe, had I not looked inside myself and somehow found the courage to get away, I'd still be that same miserable person, nearly twenty years later. I'm happy to say I'm married now to a man who is the direct opposite - he encourages me to follow my dreams, he tells me how beautiful I am, (even when I physically look like crap), he tells me he loves me. And it works. Our family motto is "You get what you give, so give love" - I only hope my children keep that in their hearts for the remainder of their lives, and pass it on to their own children. Love begets love, that's all there is to it. Thank you so much for this wonderful post! Mike, I am so glad I found you. This is one of the best blog posts I’ve ever read. You’ve said exactly what I feel.

I lived through a relationship like this when I was young – from 16-23-years old, and it nearly crushed my normal confident, out-going personality. My husband, (at that time), criticized every single thing I did, and of course I believed him – that I was stupid and couldn’t do anything right. I’m certain my age had a lot to do with it, but I truly believe, had I not looked inside myself and somehow found the courage to get away, I’d still be that same miserable person, nearly twenty years later.

I’m happy to say I’m married now to a man who is the direct opposite – he encourages me to follow my dreams, he tells me how beautiful I am, (even when I physically look like crap), he tells me he loves me. And it works. Our family motto is “You get what you give, so give love” – I only hope my children keep that in their hearts for the remainder of their lives, and pass it on to their own children.
Love begets love, that’s all there is to it.

Thank you so much for this wonderful post!

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