Comments on: Lasting impressions on our children http://chefstales.com/2009/09/22/lasting-impressions-on-our-children/ Everything you've always wanted to know about cooking, but were too afraid to ask Mon, 06 Feb 2012 10:15:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: mikesaxon http://chefstales.com/2009/09/22/lasting-impressions-on-our-children/#comment-1862 mikesaxon Fri, 18 Jun 2010 11:55:08 +0000 http://chefstales.com/?p=294#comment-1862 Hi Lesley, Very good point indeed and well thought through. There is indeed a fine line between hurting them and wrapping them up in cotton wool, therefore making them soft and vulnerable for later in life. Children also differ from one to another, some can take a joke, some can take a good scolding if you like and others may be more sensitive. I guess the thing is we should try and be the best parent for our children as I always believe that nobody knows them as well as we do. I am very happy that you dropped by and even more so that you have added depth and a different point of view to this particular debate. Sincere thanks for your input. Warm regards, Mike. Hi Lesley,

Very good point indeed and well thought through.

There is indeed a fine line between hurting them and wrapping them up in cotton wool, therefore making them soft and vulnerable for later in life.

Children also differ from one to another, some can take a joke, some can take a good scolding if you like and others may be more sensitive.

I guess the thing is we should try and be the best parent for our children as I always believe that nobody knows them as well as we do.

I am very happy that you dropped by and even more so that you have added depth and a different point of view to this particular debate.

Sincere thanks for your input.

Warm regards,

Mike.

]]> By: Lesleyalmost http://chefstales.com/2009/09/22/lasting-impressions-on-our-children/#comment-1855 Lesleyalmost Thu, 17 Jun 2010 10:32:31 +0000 http://chefstales.com/?p=294#comment-1855 Oh, the minefield that is parenting:-) My kids are grown and there is one thing that I learned through 27 years of parenting; just when you think you have it all sussed to not embarrass your children, you will inadvertantly add another to the list! I so agree that we shouldn't deliberately make our kids feel bad in public, they need to be able to trust us and that includes knowing that we will pick them up in time. However, don't forget that a gentle tease both ways can be good fun as long as it isn't serious, a fine line but our kids need to be able to develop a shield and be able to respond in kind so that they can be ready for the bigger, badder world...... Oh, the minefield that is parenting:-) My kids are grown and there is one thing that I learned through 27 years of parenting; just when you think you have it all sussed to not embarrass your children, you will inadvertantly add another to the list! I so agree that we shouldn’t deliberately make our kids feel bad in public, they need to be able to trust us and that includes knowing that we will pick them up in time. However, don’t forget that a gentle tease both ways can be good fun as long as it isn’t serious, a fine line but our kids need to be able to develop a shield and be able to respond in kind so that they can be ready for the bigger, badder world……

]]> By: Michael Saxon http://chefstales.com/2009/09/22/lasting-impressions-on-our-children/#comment-1547 Michael Saxon Mon, 26 Apr 2010 10:46:42 +0000 http://chefstales.com/?p=294#comment-1547 Dear Readers, Here is a woman that knows what she is talking about. As LadyBizBiz writes you can feel and hear that she truly believes in what she is writing about and saying. I can easily get emotional when reading her sentiments and know that I would love knowing her in real life. LadyBizBiz, I think you are great and know that we all can feel better and learn from your shared comments. I hope everyday that I will have the same relationship with my daughters that you have with yours. Sincere thanks for dropping by and I really hope that you do so again. Very warm regards, Mike Dear Readers,

Here is a woman that knows what she is talking about.
As LadyBizBiz writes you can feel and hear that she truly believes in what she is writing about and saying.
I can easily get emotional when reading her sentiments and know that I would love knowing her in real life.
LadyBizBiz, I think you are great and know that we all can feel better and learn from your shared comments.
I hope everyday that I will have the same relationship with my daughters that you have with yours.
Sincere thanks for dropping by and I really hope that you do so again.
Very warm regards,
Mike

]]> By: LadyBizBiz http://chefstales.com/2009/09/22/lasting-impressions-on-our-children/#comment-1546 LadyBizBiz Sun, 25 Apr 2010 17:17:50 +0000 http://chefstales.com/?p=294#comment-1546 You mention the creation of 'good memories', yes I would agree. This was the most salutory lesson I learned as a first-time mother, who was completely clueless as far as parenting was concerned having had no experience of living in the warm comfort of an extended family, and in admitting this deficit in skills I signed up for parenting classes. During this time I became more knowledgeable about the value of 'long lasting and loving memories', and I strived to create them with every passing year of my child's life. She's 24 years old now and lives an independant life with her partner but when we meet we always have a shared chuckle in remembering snippets from her childhood. These fond memories are the lubricant that oils the wheels of family life, and they are also the glue that bonds our children to us for all time. You mention the creation of ‘good memories’, yes I would agree. This was the most salutory lesson I learned as a first-time mother, who was completely clueless as far as parenting was concerned having had no experience of living in the warm comfort of an extended family, and in admitting this deficit in skills I signed up for parenting classes.
During this time I became more knowledgeable about the value of ‘long lasting and loving memories’, and I strived to create them with every passing year of my child’s life.
She’s 24 years old now and lives an independant life with her partner but when we meet we always have a shared chuckle in remembering snippets from her childhood.
These fond memories are the lubricant that oils the wheels of family life, and they are also the glue that bonds our children to us for all time.

]]> By: Michael Saxon http://chefstales.com/2009/09/22/lasting-impressions-on-our-children/#comment-1531 Michael Saxon Sun, 18 Apr 2010 16:52:04 +0000 http://chefstales.com/?p=294#comment-1531 Dear Emily, Firstly let me aplogize for not answering your post earlier as for some reason I must have missed it. It is my experience that we are all unfortunately not perfect parents nor will we ever be. If we are willing to accept this stream of logic, then we can also understand that all we can do every day is try harder to be the best parents we can be. There is nothing more we can do. I am sure that you are a great mother, the fact that you wote these comments provides me the evidence that I am correct in my observation. Thank you very much for dropping by. Warm regards, Mike. Dear Emily,

Firstly let me aplogize for not answering your post earlier as for some reason I must have missed it.
It is my experience that we are all unfortunately not perfect parents nor will we ever be.
If we are willing to accept this stream of logic, then we can also understand that all we can do every day is try harder to be the best parents we can be.
There is nothing more we can do.
I am sure that you are a great mother, the fact that you wote these comments provides me the evidence that I am correct in my observation.
Thank you very much for dropping by.
Warm regards,
Mike.

]]> By: Emily http://chefstales.com/2009/09/22/lasting-impressions-on-our-children/#comment-1452 Emily Wed, 24 Mar 2010 05:34:54 +0000 http://chefstales.com/?p=294#comment-1452 reading this made me vow to myself that I must try to avoid being late in picking up my boys as much as possible...Thank u Mike! reading this made me vow to myself that I must try to avoid being late in picking up my boys as much as possible…Thank u Mike!

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